Saturday, November 29, 2014

the gift of friendship

A friend of mine posted this on Facebook, and I found it really apt for myself, and thought it would be too for many of us teenagers out there. :-)

The best gift a friend can give is the gift of unconditional friendship, where there is no hate, no judgement, no annoyance nor tolerance, but only respect, genuine interest, and mutual understanding and effort. The gift of unconditional love.
To put bluntly, I feel that as teenagers reaching our dating years, that too often we try to (too hard maybe ) to find someone that has mutual romantic interest in order to achieve such a friendship, or rather, to find someone to share our lives with.
We all ultimately have a desire in our hearts to love and be loved. But it's not always in relationships that we the love we're looking for, unconditional, wholly encompassing love. After all, a relationship becomes the condition for unconditional love.
As a result of seeking a life partner to find unconditional love, it's easy to often neglect/forget about the very people who are around us already. The friends we have, that have always been there and will be there in the future.
We neglect to develop and deepen these friendships that already exist, learn to love our friends and foster our support network. When we come to the end, we look back we feel nothing but despair and hope for the time we waste.
This may seem irrelevant to some, but to those of you to which this speaks out to clearly, I want to encourage you to start making a difference. It's easy. Just look around you and identify the friends who have always loved you. The ones that have always been there and are always with you, and for you. And start deepening your friendships. 
Talk to them, spend time with them, don't be afraid of annoying them, don't be shy, but be there for them. Be wholly accommodating, accepting, listening when appropriate, advising where possible, and comforting when needed.
It is sadly true that people who are willing to love unconditionally don't come along often, but don't let it deter you from trying. Be wise to catch them when you see them, but above that, be willing to love unconditionally first. It'll be reciprocated eventually, and even if it doesn't, it's only a matter of moving on. 
We all need a helping hand to stand by in our lives lest we go through dark times, and we have to put in the effort to developing relationships before we can reap our harvest. And true friends are one crucial area of life that we can never have enough of.
Let's bring back the magic of true friendship and learn to love the way love was meant to be shown. I believe that love is not exclusive to just our life partners, but also our friends, and the people that we call colleagues, acquaintances, or even enemies. After all, the Bible in describing love never specified that it applied just romantically, but instead to all around us. 
1 Corinthians 13:3-7 MSG[...] So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

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